I am the eldest son of a Pentecostal Layman ( I choose the term Layman, because I can never keep up with what my Father is ). Both my parents & my younger brother & sister are all born again Christians,I was too & I had a gift, that gave me the ability to see a person’s aura.
!975 – 1979
I was in high school & was bullied every day & all my parents told me to do was to do the Christian thing & turn the other cheek.
1980 – 1994
I was raped at the age of 16 by a guy that I thought was a friend, the year was 1980. Even though I was raped, nothing was ever done about it. I was advised by my parents to move on, turn the other cheek. I don’t hate the guy who raped me back then, because all he did was awaken me. In yrs to come we became friends of sorts.
I struggled with myself, my upbringing & all these emotions that were boiling out of me. Over the next few yrs I had sexual relationships with both men & women, I wasn’t straight & I wasn’t gay.
The biggest problem was the fact that my ” Christian ” upbringing condemned the Bi side of me. I struggled to maintain a ” normal ” life on the outside but was becoming volatile on the inside. I wasn’t unstable or anything but I had a rage building up inside of me.
Early in 1983 I was assaulted by 3 guys because they reckoned I was gay. They started calling me names, like poofter, faggot, etc & I laughed at them & walked away. It was then that they attacked me. I tried to turn the other cheek & it didn’t work & I lost my temper. It was the first & last time I ever lost my temper. I wasn’t just mad, I was in a rage. I had a focal point for all the rage building up inside of me. I hit the first guy once with my left fist right between the eyes. I hit the 2nd guy once right over his heart & I gave the 3rd guy a vicious head butt. Fortunately for me there was about 50 witnesses to the whole thing so I wasn’t charged with assault. I learnt a lot that day & it was then that I started to control my emotions & channel my temper into something constructive.
I met the new AOG Minister that was in Laurieton back in the 80’s ( not sure what yr ). Now this minister was different, well to me he was, but I couldn’t quite place it. His name was Anthony Venn-Brown. This guy seem to be connected to God, had a beautiful wife & a couple of daughters. The impact of meeting Anthony Venn-Brown wouldn’t actually hit me until around 2005. I thought to myself this guy has it together, so I tried to walk the right way & be ” normal “. Even though to everyone else I was a normal hot blooded male I continued to live 2 lives until 1994.
1994 – 2000
I actually went straight for the 6yrs I was married to my 1st wife. sure I used to fantasize about being with guys, but I took my vows seriously & was the hard working husband with a daughter & a son. On Mother’s Day 2000 I was playing with my kids & spun suddenly & tore 3 discs in my back. My wife supported me until October 2000 then had an affair with another guy. The marriage was over at that point & I was free to be me again.
On my 40th birthday I started writing a book about Intimacy. In it I covered everything, for male / female, female / female & male / male sexual relationships.
2001 – 2006
I continued to live 2 lives during this period & the day I started to question myself was the day I saw an article about Anthony Venn-Brown while I waited in a doctor’s surgery. I read about Anthony coming out & declaring that he was gay. I wasn’t shocked, but what his ” message ” in what I read stayed with me until late 2009.
2006 – 2008
I tried the straight thing again. I dated the Deputy Mayor’s daughter & after a few months we decided to get engaged, than after 12 months we got married. It was a marriage made in hell. It lasted just over 7 months. Since the I’ve been single.
2010
On the 1st day of this year I wrote on my Face Book page that 2010 was the yr of change for me.
No longer was I going to sit back in the shadows & hide my other life. Don’t get my wrong, I’m not going to stand on the street corner waving a placard that says I am bisexual, but I am out. I am now actively involved with the local branch of GLBT Coastal Lynx. I am openly sharing my views about the whole GLBT Communtiy with people that are straight. One thing I’ve noticed lately is that people are starting to come out & say they are Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual or Transgendered.
I have always been a people magnet, it’s my personality & now I am slowly re-educating ” straight ” people about people from the GLBT Community.
Meeting Anthony Venn-Brown back in the 80’s & then reading the article about him coming out yrs later finally impacted on me on new years eve back in December last yr.
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