Sorry to be blunt here, but the pastor and his wife sound like a ripe bunch of quacks. It is the exact sort of patronizing talk that ex-gay ministries use, saying things like 'God can still forgive you if you do this, this and this'. PLEASE.
This is the very reason I left my church, because not only did one of the pastors say 'It's ok to be in a relationship… as long as it is with the opposite sex', but the people of the church merely tolerated me, and that is completely unchristian and demoralizing to my spirit.
I personally listen to sermons I believe are truthful in their message from home now. Sermons mainly by Rob Buckingham. I would go to a gay affirming church, but the ones in my area don't have anyone around my age range/generation that can relate to me, but I have been a loner my whole life, so I am used to being independent.
Anywho, I would encourage you to find a gay affirming church or some sort of church which accepts LGBT individuals.
From personal experience, homophobic churches are just as bad as ex-gay ministries. Their intolerance and patronizing comments seriously messes with your head and breaks you spiritually in the long run, so I would suggest finding a community that supports and accepts you for WHO YOU ARE!
Hope that helps 🙂
Edit: Just read you found a new church, that's awesome news!!