Church Life in General From student matt

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Joined in 2007
May 28, 2007, 12:44

Anthony said “I would say that the average pastor has read nothing of the research on sexual orientation.”

And he is right in saying so. Many pastors may not have been confronted with these issues before. In my experience with a number of “larger” and “influential” churches, the pastoral team do not take responsibility in learning to deal with such matters. The common course of action is to push a person into a program that may not be relevant, most commonly to “change’ the person into a hetrosexual. In my case, I was referred to as having a “mental inbalance” that was the cause of my ‘same sex attraction’.

The same attitude does occur towards victims of divorce, rape etc. Although these attitudes of “not wanting to know” about such issues are changing, hopefully one day the attitudes will change towards same sex attracted people as well.

Joined in 2006
May 28, 2007, 17:23

You are right leatherboi about the fact that the heads and even counsellors at church have not really wanted to know……a course i did years ago only touched on the subject via the ex gay book by andy comiskey used by living waters and exodus? i think……although the counselling team is quite understanding their is still a lack of real insight.

But as you say the tides are definately changing. )

Joined in 2007
May 28, 2007, 23:15

I wonder what it takes to bring about a better understanding of Gay issues with people who have not had the opportunity to explore this area or taboo… I mean… I’m about to ask about joining a church and I have a sneaky suspicious feeling that they will probably ask me about “gay” stuff… 🙄 … will be interesting.

I’m not one to shy away from being factual about sexuality. I mean there are rather erotic stuff in the bible… giggles.

I think the focus should be about wanting to be more christlike and doing the right thing… being non-judgemental and being mindful. I reason that no matter where I go in the mainstream church that I will come across youth or those who identify themselves as Gay and I intend to be a living book for them to come to understand God in a different light. When I was sruggling against my “orientation” I found myself so frustrated that I ended up meeting a guy who was one of us… then time rolls on… I found that when I accepted myself as I am, I am not so sexually charged or frustrated… I don’t feel the temptation to do waht comes naturally.

Hmmmm the focus really should be about being a child of God and learning to accept myself as I am. 😀 🙂 😀

Joined in 2007
August 13, 2008, 11:16

I think life is a inner Journey of the Heart, as it has a time for many challenges, along the line of change. I myself have found life a place of inner lost hope. I am finding it hard sometimes, in a communication sense, to have a social life.

I think that I would like to meet that special person. But honestly I think time is on the corner side of life. When in the company of just me sometimes.


light of the world

bye from matt.

Anthony Venn-Brown
Joined in 2005
August 13, 2008, 18:59

hey Matt….good to hear from you. We haven’ t seen you for a while. Sounds like you are in a very reflective frame of mind at the moment.

Joined in 2006
August 15, 2008, 00:03

Yes Matt, good to hear you writing out your thoughts on here. It can feel really good after. As well as knowing there is a big group of people nodding to what you are saying. You have our support.

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