I know when I first started questioning my own status a few years ago, the Internet was the most obvious first step – both because of the wealth of information it provided, and also because of it’s simple privacy/anonymity.
gaychristian.net was an obvious first result on Google, and I recall reading the A vs B debate, having a brief browse in the forums and the like. From there I ventured on to both personal blogs (there are a fair few out there) to see the human side of things, and also to sites which focused more on actual theological studies. Lots of them too. Some convincing, others not.
I never really hung around any particular sites though, or subscribed to any blogs. I suppose not wanting to leave any of them in my Internet history on my PC was a contributing factor there. These days however that’s less of an issue (obviously).
On a more personal level, I do have a lot of purely online friends from my decade or so of playing games and chatting on gaming-related forums. I actually came out to a few of them a good year or so before I told any people I knew IRL. I guess I could say that they were instrumental in getting me where I am today… but that’s probably another story for the stories forum =P
In the end though, I don’t really have a place online where I “hang out” anymore. As far as online contact goes I normally tend to keep it to more of a one-on-one level, such as MSN or Facebook, with this place being the only real exception.
Oh, and as for point (2), that sounds pretty cool. Real-life meet-ups with online friends are always intriguing, I wouldn’t mind tagging along.