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Harder being a gay teen now?

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Mr Summit
Chapter Leader
Joined in 2010
April 6, 2011, 09:18

This was on news.com.au:


http://www.news.com.au/entertainment/celebrity/why-its-harder-being-gay-today-than-in-the-70s/story-e6frfmqi-1226034054349


Why it’s harder being a gay teenager today than in the 1970s


T’S tougher being a gay teenager now than it was in the 1970s, rights activist and popular US advice columnist Dan Savage says.


Rather than making things easier, increased awareness of gay culture means high schoolers who don’t fit the popular mould are now more likely to find themselves being bullied and harassed, Savage said.


“I think it’s gotten worse for gay teenagers,” he said. “One of the advantages I enjoyed at school 30 years ago that you could fly under the radar.


“I was a weird kid with no interest in girls, I liked musicals and I liked to bake and I like to read and people did not automatically assume I was gay.


“Nowadays, there’s an awareness… that an interest in musicals, an interest in baking and a disinterest in girls if you’re a boy – case closed, you’re a fag,” he said.


The 46-year-old, who writes the popular Savage Love column, is the advocate behind a YouTube project aimed at helping bullied kids with the simple but effective message: it gets better


When he launched the campaign last year he hoped 100 people would post clips with personal messages of support for teenagers bearing the brunt of schoolyard harassment, but he was not prepared for the wave of global support.

Within days of its launch, hundreds of submissions, including a number from Australia, had been posted to the It Gets Better YouTube channel.


There are now more than 10,000 clips racking up more than 40 million views with President Barack Obama, Hilary Clinton and UK Prime Minister David Cameron among the heavyweights who have volunteered to be a part of the project.

Adam Lambert, Anne Hathaway, Colin Farrell, Glee’s Matthew Morrison, Joe Jonas, Joel Madden, Ke$ha, Sarah Silverman, Ellen DeGeneres, and the staffs of The Gap, Google, Facebook, and Pixar have also lent their weight to the project.


“It has saved lives, it has saved kids lives,” Savage said.


There are now It Gets Better off-shoots in the UK, South Africa and Israel.


Savage hopes Australia is the next country on the list.


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I don’t really think I agree with him. Firstly, not one in high school picked up that I was gay despite my unusual disinterest in girls. Secondly, I’ve had a number of very positive experience with high-school students. Including meeting one group of catholic school girls who wanted to make a gay student their school captain. In fact, some of my run ins with HSers are changing my perception of their group!


The It’s Gets Better project is awesome though.



Anthony Venn-Brown
 
Joined in 2005
April 6, 2011, 23:05

having been a teenager in 60’s….I think this is absolute garbage.


When I was a teenager I had to be careful that the police never saw me or I would be arrested…and either sent to a juvenile detention centre or goal. (I lived in fear of this and possibly disgracing my family)


When I went to a psychiatrist (mental health professional) for help…… he really believed he could work out why i was a homosexual and cure me. (this didn’t change till 1973)


There was no church or pastor at that stage I could go to who would tell me God loved me just as I am.


There was no support…….no one you could trust to talk to. (telling someone risked being outed with all the legal,societal, employment and family ramifications of being know as a homosexual)


there was no Freedom 2 b[e]. ( a safe space to connect and share with others who understood my dilemma)


I could not go to my school principal or counsellor and say I was being harassed and bashed because I was gay.


There was no internet that I could use to anonymous search for information about what i was discovering about myself ….in fact there was hardly any scientific research available.


Even when I came out 20 years ago some of the above things were not available for a person from my background when i needed them so desperately.


Having said all that……I do recognise that for some teenagers in certain geographical areas, family situations, cultural or religious contexts some of the above are not available or they are not aware of them or can’t access them. The alienation and isolation can be crippling.


probably I am the only one who responded to this Mr Summit as I am the oldest on the forum…….. :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile:



Mr Summit
Chapter Leader
Joined in 2010
April 6, 2011, 23:57

All good reasons why he is wrong. I am not sure why he would not mention them. Except he is probably after publicity.


I am constantly reminded of how thankful I am for the people who went before me and took on a lot of challenges so that I now do not have to.



supercalamari
 
Joined in 2008
April 7, 2011, 00:44

I’d like to think that things have improved drastically, but I’m not that naive. I’ll leave the judgement on this one to someone else this time…



Anthony Venn-Brown
 
Joined in 2005
April 7, 2011, 13:25

This was on news.com.au:


Dan Savage says.


“I think it’s gotten worse for gay teenagers,” he said. “One of the advantages I enjoyed at school 30 years ago that you could fly under the radar.


“I was a weird kid with no interest in girls, I liked musicals and I liked to bake and I like to read and people did not automatically assume I was gay.


“Nowadays, there’s an awareness… that an interest in musicals, an interest in baking and a disinterest in girls if you’re a boy – case closed, you’re a fag,” he said..


I think the awareness generally speaking is hugely positive and rarely works in a negative way. Is Dan Savage getting lost in something that has plague gay and lesbian people for decades……STEREOTYPING.


Its a weird comment for someone to make…….Dear Dan…..you weren’t flying under the radar at all.


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