Hello,

As the title says, I have some Christian friends who are being currently told and they are convinced that being gay/lesbian is evil/bad/wrong. For all of them this is very strong. They are involved in Pentecostal and charismatic communities, so there is a big emphasis on praying against the evil and “satan” attacking them. They’ve fasted, prayed, and I’m sure many more things to make them straight. I am now feeling free and they are continuing to be hurt, it’s just not right, and what if all they need is the Christian friend like I had to say maybe it’s okay!

The problem with one particular friend is:

a. It has been from a mutual very close friend who told me our other friend is having lesbian thoughts, and how evil is Satan to do this to her. I was so shocked at how much she was against it I didn’t make any rebuttals, I said nothing. I thought it was futile. I still am very scared that this friend will launch a Christian fixing attack on me, as well as this friend, as she has pastors and leaders who will support her and come after us. And I really don’t want to be come after personally, or shut out and lose these people.

I don’t live in the same town or state as my friends anymore, but we are still friends. We are about to meet up and I don’t think I can resist telling my lesbian-denying friend that she can be free. I am hoping that I can speak to her without her telling my other friend, but I am afraid she in convinced that she will think the devil will be using me to attack her.

Timing is another thing. Do I tell her at the start or end of our international trip? Our other friend is coming along too, plus some others and it’s a trip that includes going to a Christian conference.

Another close friend who is also in a similar situation, although he is a close family friend to my husbands family.

I guess I’m just having the whinge of how to secretly come out with my thoughts and who I am. #slightlyashamed

I’m praying I’ll be bold, brave and my passion for freedom for them is the right attitude and God can work through me.

🙂

Hi,

There are a number of different ways you could help your friends and others but I think the greatest thing is to just be yourself. To speak up when you hear discrimation and to fight injustice.

If you wanted to come along to a freedom2b chapter meeting, I’m sure that would help and you are already helping just by being on this forum.

A few helpful resources are:

– ‘For the Bible Tells Me So’ DVD

– ‘Love is an Orientation’ by Andrew Marin (Book)

– ‘Prayers for Bobby’ DVD

Hope this helped a little. 🙂

Hi all,

Fantastic tips, thank you.

So I’m getting the consensus that I should help them by saying it’s okay to be gay. I got the courage to tell 2 more of my closest friends about me and ask them what, when, how best to do it. They were very supportive and it gave me a good chat for how to approach them. I think a well placed resource of two will be great, and interview is perfect, I’ll have to listen to that. The first Christian gay resource I found was honestly not a good one and turned me off, so I’m thankful to have found the resource here at F2B.

I’d certainly come to a chapter meeting. I’m on holidays soon so maybe next month. Maybe by then one of my friends will be coming too.

Thanks again for the space to rant on.