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Training to be a Priest, Straight, and sick of the churches attitude

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holywoman
 
Joined in 2010
May 27, 2010, 16:09

I am currently training to be a Priest, and felt constantly suffocated and trapped by the backward and judgemental attitude of the church, but unable to find my voice. I am hoping the freedom2b provides that starting point for me.


I was not raised in the church, so when i started going issues such as sexuality became very important to be as i grew up with LGBT’s in my life and i couldn’t reconcile my understanding of sexuality to the churches very close minded attitude at the top.


This lead to me seek understanding and knowledge about where people thought being gay was a sin, and the different attitudes for and against such understanding. After such a long walk with God through this it came to a climax earlier this year when defending my viewpoint to a leader of the mission I was on told me ‘that I took the word of man over the word of God’ and that ‘one day i would come to see the truth’. To say i was angry was one thing, but i was also incredibly sad at the same time, knowing that leaders and thus examples in the church promote such hate and intolerance and this view flows through the church, because no one bothered to do the ground work and thus take everything at face value.


I have seen people who deny themselves, who they are, because the church won’t accept them. But they feel that to become Priests, to obey God’s call they must sacrifice this aspect of themselves. Talking to those currently in this situation they feel as if they lose sight of themselves. But they can;t have a voice, because in the church to have a voice, they risk their chances of being ordained. But if those of us who are straight speak out, as long as we are reasonable we usually can ‘get away with it’.


I can’t pretend that i understand what it is like to have the church exclude me. But being female, I have experience discrimination because of something i cannot change. I have been told that because I am a female I shouldn’t be a Priest because the bible says women shouldn’t be leaders of the church. This is passages of the bible taken out of context and culture and used to discriminate against someone ignoring the bible as a whole.


What has it come to when people can’t even defend their own rights? Can’t have a voice for fear of rejection and discrimination? Since when did we have the right to define sexuality? To limit it?


I want to keep this short and sweet, to the point, I just want to be a voice for something i believe in, where my opinion isn’t limited by politics and hidden agendas, and where I can be taught by all of you how to react to sexuality within the context of the church.


God Bless



Ann Maree
 
Joined in 2008
May 27, 2010, 21:06

Hi holywoman


Wow! What a woman you are!


My heart goes out to you in terms of being discriminated against just for being female. I know how that feels. God must weep that this happens – and still in 2010! Of course we know there are many great examples of women as leaders in the bible. Interestingly, I am doing my own self-directed learning on Mary Magdalene and am amazed by what I’m finding. From the gnostic gospels, it appears she was much more significant than the ‘official’ gospels give her credit for. And this is important because Mary Magdalene’s example is a reference point for all women across cultures and time spans. And throughout the ages, women have been discredited and limited in their roles within the church as Mary Magdalene appears to be in the ‘official’ new testament account.


I am encouraged however that Jesus loved her and other women like he did. He was radical then, and even now, I think he would still be considered radical in quite a few church circles. I am also encouraged by your stance, holywoman. Thank you!


Blessings,


Ann Maree



poidah
 
Joined in 2010
May 27, 2010, 22:52

I think it is great to be questioning and open to new interpretations of old doctrines. Science has always welcomed challenges and testing new ideas. I think progressive religion should also. Critical interpretation of old gospels and ideas is wonderful. Everyone should have access to the testaments and learn who interpretation is done.


No longer should we blindly accept the patriarchal interpretations and narrow interpretations as “God’s will”. Society has broken away from the authoritarian control by the church. In the same vein we all need to retain our independence when it comes to spiritual interpretation.


I accept that it is very difficult to learn to be a priest and to detach from the hierarchy of power that comes with priesthood. In the same way we all struggle to mediate what we feel is right within ourselves and the demands of our various professions. Being asian I am a big fan of Buddhist traditions study and appreciate detachment. Good luck 🙂



Ann Maree
 
Joined in 2008
May 28, 2010, 12:14

Hi there


Peter, It’s always good to hear from you. 🙂 Thanks for your support here, and well said too.


You make a good point about science adjusting theories according to new discoveries and knowledge which is something religion needs to do. In my opinion, science and religion aren’t that different afterall, each based on theories or beliefs and helped by living ‘evidence’ to support them. Some might argue with me on this and please feel free to do so. For instance, beliefs are perhaps more faith-related and not reliant on evidence. However I believe we are given evidence in various forms to strengthen our faith in whatever we have faith in. I’d be interested in others’ comments on this..


I think there’s a lot to learn from Buddhist practices. I watched a beautiful program some time ago about interfaith people and experiences. A catholic nun decided she needed to learn how to meditate so turned to Buddhist monks, deciding that they were the experts in that area. At first she found the focus on nothingness quite daunting, even threatening to her sense of self and God. She said that in our western way of thinking we are often used to having a focus as part of our thoughts or prayers. (From attachment theory, you might say some of us cling to a ‘transitional object’ as a toddler does to a favourite blanket to remind him of Mum, which assists him in coping when she’s not there and in the journey toward independence. So maybe if we doing a similar thing, this indicates an area for potential growth in terms of maturity and something we can learn from our eastern friends…Just my thoughts anyway…). After a while however, she realised that she really wasn’t losing anything of value but gaining quite a lot. She came to see that there were false aspects of herself that she had been quite attached to and really didn’t serve her. These were being revealed and gradually peeled away. This left her with a sense of freedom and the space to really know herself and God. She said she found great peace along the way. I loved how she described this process and the fact that it deepened her Christian understanding while giving her an appreciation of buddhists and another way of doing things.


holywoman, sorry that I’ve diverted somewhat from your original post..However this line of thought makes me think that you are still the person you were made to be and no person can ever take that away from you. Oh sure, they can potentially stop you being a priest (at least in that particular church/congregation) or gag you for being a woman, both painful, but there is always more than one way to express your true essence or calling. The church’s position maybe limited but God’s ways are not. I’m not saying it’s an easy process to find your path in that maze.. only that there is a way through. And I’m confident you’ll find it. 🙂


Blessings,


Ann Maree



Anthony Venn-Brown
 
Joined in 2005
June 1, 2010, 17:34

he godchick……welcome to our community…..feel free to vent……. 😀 😀 😀



Andrea H
 
Joined in 2010
June 5, 2010, 17:02

Hi there


Peter, It’s always good to hear from you. 🙂 Thanks for your support here, and well said too.


You make a good point about science adjusting theories according to new discoveries and knowledge which is something religion needs to do. In my opinion, science and religion aren’t that different afterall, each based on theories or beliefs and helped by living ‘evidence’ to support them. Some might argue with me on this and please feel free to do so. For instance, beliefs are perhaps more faith-related and not reliant on evidence. However I believe we are given evidence in various forms to strengthen our faith in whatever we have faith in. I’d be interested in others’ comments on this..


I think there’s a lot to learn from Buddhist practices. I watched a beautiful program some time ago about interfaith people and experiences. A catholic nun decided she needed to learn how to meditate so turned to Buddhist monks, deciding that they were the experts in that area. At first she found the focus on nothingness quite daunting, even threatening to her sense of self and God. She said that in our western way of thinking we are often used to having a focus as part of our thoughts or prayers. (From attachment theory, you might say some of us cling to a ‘transitional object’ as a toddler does to a favourite blanket to remind him of Mum, which assists him in coping when she’s not there and in the journey toward independence. So maybe if we doing a similar thing, this indicates an area for potential growth in terms of maturity and something we can learn from our eastern friends…Just my thoughts anyway…). After a while however, she realised that she really wasn’t losing anything of value but gaining quite a lot. She came to see that there were false aspects of herself that she had been quite attached to and really didn’t serve her. These were being revealed and gradually peeled away. This left her with a sense of freedom and the space to really know herself and God. She said she found great peace along the way. I loved how she described this process and the fact that it deepened her Christian understanding while giving her an appreciation of buddhists and another way of doing things.


holywoman, sorry that I’ve diverted somewhat from your original post..However this line of thought makes me think that you are still the person you were made to be and no person can ever take that away from you. Oh sure, they can potentially stop you being a priest (at least in that particular church/congregation) or gag you for being a woman, both painful, but there is always more than one way to express your true essence or calling. The church’s position maybe limited but God’s ways are not. I’m not saying it’s an easy process to find your path in that maze.. only that there is a way through. And I’m confident you’ll find it. 🙂


Blessings,


Ann Maree


Dear Holywoman (and Ann Maree and Peter),


It concerns me greatly that anyone who is a current leader of the church would make a comment about taking the word of men over the word of God. I have a number of problems with this from a theological point of view.


Firstly, the bible is the word of men not the word of God. My best friend and I went to a lecture by a theologian called Bill Loader (from WA) in which he addressed the issue of literal interpretation of scripture particularly well. He pointed out that the Bible was written by men, based on their experiences of things that occurred at the time, in the social and historical context of the time, and with the same flaws and prejudices that life experience brings to us all. It is like asking 10 witnesses to a single event to describe what they saw, they will all describe the same thing with the little differences that their life experiences lead them to interpret slightly differently to the person standing next to them. Now take these little differences and add to them several translations and the effects of time and see what you get. Even the synoptic gospels have slightly different accounts of the same events in the life of Christ, as you would expect.


Secondly, in the bible can be found the word of God if and only if you have the understanding to look for the word of God by finding and interpreting correctly, in the correct context, ALL of the passages that relate to a particular issue. There is a reason why modern theology is referred to as Systematic Theology, it is because it takes into account both new and old testaments, contemporary sociological and scientific understandings, and God’s general revelation when seeking to understand an issue and in ministering to others. Anyone (and I mean anyone) who in this day and age seeks to use literal interpretations of isolated passages of scripture is a long way from modern theological practice. Be very wary of anyone who does this, in my opinion the ‘hard-right’ is made up largely of people with out-of-date understandings of theology or who have not studied theology at all. They are dangerous ill-educated people who have caused incredible harm to the church and to so many people hurt as a result of their views.


A case in point is the oft-quoted passage from Leviticus 18 that the right-wing use to attack same-sex relationships. Notwithstanding the application of modern systematic theology and the need to consider modern social and scientific understandings of same-sex relationships and leaving aside for the moment arguments about this passage being representative of discord with custom rather than biblical law, there is also the issue of the need to inconsistently apply this section of scripture to use it in the way hard-right literalists do. In my study bible the notes for Leviticus 18 speak very specifically of the ‘sin’ of homosexuality and decries all who seek a more liberal application of this section of scripture, yet the very same bible notes talk of the list of ‘sins’ in Leviticus 19 (which crops can be planted, not mixing cloth in the same weave etc) as not a literal list of sins but rather something we should seek to interpret through the general principles of living that which Christ taught us. This is the same bible interpreted by the same people telling us that Leviticus 18 must be taken literally, yet we can use Leviticus 19 as ‘representative’ of other things and not to be taken literally! It is rubbish of course, neither can be taken literally and both should be used in a systematic way and interpreted in the context of our other modern understandings, not as isolated literal text.


Studying theology is fun and a wonderful way to open your eyes to the incredible living message that is contained in the Bible, but all care should be exercised to ensure that when someone claims that Systematic Theology is being taught that is exactly what they are doing.


On the topic of the perspective of women one of my favourite authors, Naomi Reed, has written an excellent book called “The Promise” that tells key stories from the Bible from the perspective of the women of the Bible. My best friend gave it to me for my birthday and it is a wonderful book. I would recommend it to anyone that is interested in a female perspective of some of the most incredible events in human history.


Kindest thoughts and God bless,


Andrea



Ann Maree
 
Joined in 2008
June 5, 2010, 17:46

Hi Andrea


Thanks for articulating this so well, and I couldn’t agree more with your comments. 🙂


‘The Promise’ sounds like a good book for me to get hold of but first I have to finish my Mary Magdalene books which are due back at the library soon.


Blessings,


Ann Maree


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