With God I have found, that ok, if one chooses to take the stand point of conservatism, bite the bullet that it is how its going to be “that you are homosexual in orientation and choose not to act on it” and stop asking for something thats not going to happen(becoming straight or the feelings of being attracted etc), thats the reality of it and have a supportive network of friends you can be brutally honest with.

Of course I am saying this to those that are strong in their conviction and are emotionally stable being in that place and havent had thoughts of self harm.

But for those who have had those thoughts and such, please seek support and help, God also will NOT punish you if you give into your orientation, it isnt evil to be same sex atrracted.

For those of us that have resolved our issues and are living as openly GLBTI people, at times we may need some support but keep going and stick by what you believe.

Personally, in anything, Ive realised and I have to come to a conclusion that I either believe or do something with 100% conviction regardless of what anyone says (all within the boundaries of sound judgement of course and weigh ups) or I will always be faced with being neither here nor there and constantly questioning everything and finding fault in every statement and so not being a happy camper so to speak 😉

If I flinch at the thought of failure, then I have issues surrounding that, either of pride/ego or something deeper and sadder probably around being belittled as a child/young adult, abuse etc…. and those things are crucial to deal with so one can make healthy decisions and have a healthy responce to what life may dish out at us. When we stop living out of our hurt and pain, life and decisions are a lot better but of course its a process so patience is always a good thing 😉

you are right Sandy….I was being simplistic…….and wasn’t actually referring to the faith/sexuality resolution issue. that is more complex. I was thinking more of other life issues such as career or relationship.

I guess in the area you’ve just mentioned faith plays the greats part.

…..but thinking about things again now……there probably is some truth in process i mentioned even there. I remember now in 1991 after I’d spent 22 years trying to change my sexual orientation I looked at the options.

1. Keep trying to be straight

2. Have an affair on the side

3. Accept that I’m gay (and turn away from God)

as you know I took the third option……and look where I am today. I’ve never regretted that decision.

I think I’ve said it many times on this forum. I know there is a process to resolution……..but can’t predict the timetable. Because of F2B it seems to be much quicker for others than it was for me.

you are right Sandy

Ah the four most beautiful words in the English language 😆

Thanks for all the help.