Hi DB.

Welcome to f2b and thank you for sharing a little of your story. 🙂

You are certainly not alone in hiding part of who you are and being fearful of rejection if you do open up about your sexuality. Many of us here can relate to that as you will see when you have a read through some of the stories in the Telling Our stories section.

The good news though is that you can both have a faith and be bisexual. Many have also come to realise that here as they have gathered supports around them and felt increasingly accepted and able to express themselves. And there are churches and communities who will fully accept you for who you are and you will not have to hide your sexuality.

I see from this and your other post in the discussion section that you are in Coff''s Harbour and looking for supports local to you. Have you tried googling this? As I mentioned in the other post, some of our NSW members may also be able to help.

What is your current church's stance on homosexuality, and are you happy there?

Churches are slowly realising that our sexuality is a natural and healthy part of who we are and not something that can or should be changed. However there are still churches who do not understand this which can really hurt some of their members.

I look forward to hearing more from you.

Blessings,

Ann Maree

Hi DB,

This is certainly a wonderful place. As you read through the stories on this site I pray they give you hope and encouragement that you are not alone.

My son has told us that when he was struggling with his sexuality and came to accept it he thought he was the only one who was Christian and Gay. Then he came across the F2B site. At the time he didn't know any gay Christians in the same situation as him, there was no F2B in Brisbane, now there is a chapter here and my son is one of the leaders 🙂

So hang in there, you will be amazed at how connections can be made. My son did a few trips to Syd in the early days to connect with some F2B's. Maybe you could do the same Brisbane or Syd. You would be made to feel very welcome. 🙂

God Bless

Hi DB – good to hear from you on this site – and as Ann Maree has said you are certainly not alone in feeling somewhat fearful about your sexuality and in hiding your truth from others. As you read the stories of others here, you will see that many have felt similarly "shamed" or confused or at odds as they try to work through the reconciliation of faith and sexuality.

The good news is – that many of us have come to understand that God is far more merciful and loving than we know or than we have experienced at the hands of the judgement of others. God loves you the way you are. God does not make mistakes – so you are exactly as God intended you to be. Remember that. Remember that you are indeed a loved creation.

There is a way forward DB to be the created person you are – loving and being attracted to both men and women – perhaps wanting a relationship with a woman AND having a faith and a relationship with God. The two need not be and are not mutually exclusive.

I came out later in life – had a lot of turmoil as I worked through the process, (long term f2be people will attest to this!) I struggled with the church, I struggled with faith, I struggled with coming out…. and now (three years on) – I find myself in a church where I can be completely who I am – a gay woman – and what's more, I found a loving partner along the way (we've been together only 7 months – but all is going well!). So – hang in there and please ,make use of the wonderful support that can be yours here at freedom 2 b – there are some very wise people here 🙂

All the best

Sarab