Youve made a good point there JR about being with someone level or at a same or similar place to you, its hard when someone you are with becomes hard to be with because you cant really relate to each other at the end of the day. Poor Jen, shes yet to find “the” guy in real life too 🙁

With my g’friend, we are both independant creatures, we are literally 2gether 24/7 but never in each others face, we are just compatible that way, going about our own stuff with love and silliness inbetween 😀

I love a challenge and enjoy watching the transformation taking place in her plus I read back some things I write to her and see if it isnt too “bashey” 😆 for which she is a great help 😉 Personality wise as a couple its been the most refreshing r’ship Ive ever had and we are as nuts as each other 😆 She’s a teachable person and a softy….oh blowit, purrrrfect for me 😉 She has a heart for animals and oldies and me for people and kids, thats what appeals to me, she has her passion and we support each other in our passions in life.

i’ll have to watch that film again…..totally missed that…..and a gay classic….hehe

Us lovable and wonderful nutties are out there 😆 Even with a love for facial pampering ones too 😉 btw avocado and lecithin powder makes your skin baby botty smooth and gives it a natural shine 😀 you just look like the hulk for 30mins 😯 (sorry slightly off topic 😳 )

I’m going to be the odd one out here.  I came to faith 5 years into my relationship.  Sure I believed in Him and even “admired” Him before that, but I hadn’t accepted Him as my Lord and Saviour and the Holy Spirit had long stopped hanging out with me because of my pattern of sin and bitterness and despondency.

When I recommitted my life to Christ, I was in a bit of a pickle.  I was aware I shouldn’t be “unequally yoked”.  It felt awkward.  My partner, also baptised as a child, was not in relationship with Christ.  He told me he would “let me” be a christian as long as I didn’t preach to him.  He was hostile.  I hate to admit it, but I saw the devil in his eyes on occasion – at work to keep him from salvation and to resist me.  I turned to God’s word and meditated on it.  The passage that I’ve drawn comfort from is 1 Corinthians 7:12-24.

In essence: “Each one should remain in the situation which he was in when God called him.”

Now I have prayed every day for my partner to open his heart, soul and mind to God.  I have urged him also to pray, but at first he would not.  I have “imposed” grace at meal times, initially he snickered.  Over time, he stopped snickering and took it more seriously.  It became our habit. Then he would get upset if I did a simple quick version of grace rather than my long version which asks God to bless “the loving and talented hands that prepared the food” (as he prepares our meals).  Once he was comfortable with this, I then started adding little prayers about him or on his behalf at the end of Grace – eg to help him with a difficult situation at work, or to help him overcome a particular problem.  He then started to see those prayers working.  I then kept privately praying for him to reach out to God, and for God to let his Spirit move and His presence be felt in my partner’s life so as to draw my partner to Christ and to eternal life.

I am glad to report that my partner is now (most days) wanting to talk about God.  He is praying alone sometimes.  Sure he sees God as a Genie in a bottle in terms of some of his prayers, but I’m gently trying to help him realign his character with God’s will and Word – whilst begging God’s forebearance and asking Him to do a little Genie work just to prove He really exists. My partner’s been through a lovely learning period this week on the topic of charity (tithes and offerings – always a sticky point in mixed faith joint-finance relationships).  He is seeing that when we give our money out, we are getting money back – winning money twice in two weeks in the lottery and also literally finding it laying around.  (I do wish to stop his love of lottery tickets though… but that’s another debate for another day)

I guess the point of my post is this.  I feel as Christians we are called to pray for our non-believing partners to come to Christ, and to do what we can to lead by example and show them the way.  This does not necessarily involve them even knowing we are doing it!  In a truly loving relationship such as mine, where there is many years’ history of mutual trust and support, perhaps it is easier than when a couple first come together.  I have taken my partner by his hand and led him (back) to Christ or at least towards Christ.  One of the main reasons I have been able to do this is because of the remarkable and positive changes in my character that have developed since Jesus rescued me.

I continue to pray that my partner will grow in Christ.  But at this stage, I am optimistic he is already saved.  I would very much like us to be together in eternity.

Peace and love

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