one thing I think we often have to remind ourselves of is that it took most of us years to come to terms with the fact that we were gay or lesbian…….and determine that God loves us just as we are……….it will most likely take parents some time to understand also.

there are things we can do that will either speed up the process or slow it down.

Now what might they be?

lets see how many ‘do’s’ and ‘dont’s’ we can come up with regarding helping Christian parents to come to the same place of acceptance that we have.

I’ll go first

DO: Show them the same non-judgemental, unconditional love we seek from them……even if they can’t.

DON’T: Be impatient and expect them to come to terms with things immediately. It may take years. The important thing is your honesty.

Thanks, John. I am very glad that I’ve taken this step relatively early in my life. Even if I don’t think I’ll ever have a boyfriend/partner, it’s just so liberating not to have to hide anything anymore.

Re-reading that email that your mother sent still freaks me out! It could easily have been writing by my mother, same phrases, vocabulary, use of words everything! Freaky Stuff!

Anyway, it just highlighted to me how hypocritical Christian parents can be at times. Saying that they’ll “do their best” to accept it, do they forget its their SONS and DAUGHTERS they are talking about! The whole thing about being respectful when you are around them, like not being intimate with your partner, or share a bedroom or something – that really annoys me! It’s completely double standards. I have a younger brother whose girlfriend is becoming a permanent fixture in our home unfortunately 😡

They are constantly snogging the face of one another openly much to my disgust and revulsion – i mean im sitting eating my dinner i dont want to see that! But my parents dont bat an eyelid, saying its just a phase! NOW if that was me and a guy there would be PLENTY said about it!

The dinstinct lack of a partner in my life at the moment means it isn[t really an issue for me currently, but it might be in the future, so hope all your parents as well as mine can look through their narrow-mindedness and realise it is their CHILDREN that they are looking at NOT a big pink neon sign flashing GAY!!!!!

Oh, my goodness Justin!! Do I know what your talking about….. Talk about a perfect lead in to this next portion of email my Mom sent me. This is where everything ended, and I just gave up trying to communicate with them further on the issue. Sooooo frustrating…. 😡

We’ll be in touch with you again soon concerning the serious conversation, but you need to be very patient with us. We spend a majority of our time pretty bewildered about your situation, and it’s hard to think about it without being depressed. We love you, and we know you are headed in a dangerous direction, and honestly it scares us to death. Meeting Joe as your partner is going to be very difficult for all the family. It is not going to be the same as feelings we had when we met your brother’s significant others. As much as you want it to be that way, it just won’t. We will be thinking of Joe as your friend, and relating to him as such. Our minds just rebel at the thought of an intimate relationship between the two of you. I’m sorry, but that is the way it is. That probably sounds very hard and close-minded to you, but you will have to refrain from any physical touching and what is now “normal” to you between each other because it would be so uncomfortable for us that it would never work. Let us know if you can be restrained in that way. It will help a lot if you would be willing. I must go for the moment. Gotta hang up the clothes. Hope to hear from you soon. Love you, Mom and Dad

So there you have it. It makes me so angry because they havent even met Joe. They make it sound like were gonna start making out infront of everybody, and spread AIDS to all straight people there!!! LOL!!! 😆 But 😡 😡 😥

Ive just learned to try to be as positive as I can about it. I was depressed for two weeks after I read that last email. Hence my lack of posting on here. I was just to upset.

HA!!! 😆

That is so funny!!! I thought I was the only one with a Mom like that! We should have our Mom’s exchange phone numbers so they can talk about thier tragically gay sons!!! LOL!!! 😆 😆

Awww! You so made my day! Good to know Im not the only one with a family like this. 😉