Well, so much for burning this bridge… 😉

After four (or is it five?) days without posting – all the while being swamped by end-of-term homework and thusly being unable to post even if I had still intended to – I’ve decided, in the light of several posts made since then, to give this forum another go. This time, I’ll try to shut my mouth a bit more, and only post when I have something to say that I adamantly believe will not or cannot start a row.

It also occurred to me that, if what Magsdee said on my thread in response to my last post is true (namely, that experience is something that will teach you things you cannot learn otherwise), then I probably need this forum more than I thought in order to gain better perspective.

Anyway, to the matter at hand – I believe I have found something innocuous enough to be discussed without argument, so I’m going to try and bring it up without any incident:

Something curious happened today in that two guys at my school came out and acknowledged their sexuality by making it known they were dating. As it is, too few people yet know about it to have sparked any real gossip and so I assume the rumblings I have heard are true. I also have certain other reasons to believe it to be so, first among them relating to the concept of the ‘gaydar’.

Formerly, in the name of anti-stereotyping sociological beliefs, I would have rejected the idea of the ‘gaydar’, but now I’m not so sure. At various times throughout my acquaintance with both guys I have made personal wagers to myself betting that it would turn out they were gay based on nothing more than a hunch. In fact, but a few weeks ago I made another silent wager that they would hook up after seeing them talking together, again, based on nothing more than intuition.

I don’t recall seeing this issue being discussed previously on F2b, but if it has, sorry to bring up an old topic again – I just wanted to know what other people think about the so-called ‘gaydar’. Am I prescient, preternaturally perceptive, or just plain lucky?

PS. I know this post comes off a bit stiff and forced, but please don’t think I’m trying to make polite chatter – turns out I just can’t write… 😉

YESS!!!!! I love it!!!

I have about the strongest gay-dar ever. LOL! Like, I get asked all the time if I think so-and-so is gay. Im right about 99% of the time….Its my other job in the military…. HAHAHA!! 😆

I definitely have ‘gaydar hindsight’ – once I know someone’s gay, I can see the clues. Eventually that might lead to me being able to figure it out beforehand a bit more often!

I don’t know. Sometimes I think I can tell, but I suspect that sometimes it’s just wishful thinking on my part.

If there’s one thing I’ve learnt from my… gosh, about 9-10 months worth of actually getting out and meeting people, it’s that there are a huge range of guys out there and that an awful lot of them don’t come close to the stereotypical, slightly effeminate gay image. We’ve got another thread around here somewhere about people you wouldn’t pick walking down the street.

Does gaydar work through the television? If so… can someone please identify an AFL player I can call my own… 😳 😉

Well, see, that’s what I would have said, Mark. I’m a very anti-stereotypical person, and so naturally I would believe that homosexuals are just as capable of diversity of personality as hetrosexuals (and I still believe that). The thing is, I didn’t make assumtions based on stereotypes – the whole thing was merely a hunch based on…well…nothing. Not even the eye contact or pauses Anthony mentioned.

It comes down to two things, I think: I’m either psychic (in a very peculilar way 😕 🙂 ); or on some unconscious level I’ve picked up on certain traits, mannerisms, eye contact, (etc.) and converted that into a conscious assumption.

Or, I should consider a career in gambling… 😉

i have the WORST gaydar in the world. i couldnt pick a gay guy if he waved pink flag in my face. those of you who can, i am very impressed. its gotta be a some kind of a skill.