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Liberation Rob
 
Joined in 2007
January 22, 2008, 13:12

a simple solution would be to initate a performance appraisal for our clergy – they either perform to the stated criteria or they’re out!!!


and only 2 year max contracts open to 6 monthly reviews



orfeo
 
Joined in 2007
January 23, 2008, 13:03

This is really just a different (and possibly too glib) way of saying what some of you have already said, but…


I’m inclined to think that people are far more likely to publicly morally ‘fall’ in churches where the expected public standard of morality was pushed higher in the first place.


If one doesn’t make a big public show of being a moral role-model, one cannot then end up in quite the same amount of public disgrace for turning out to be human after all.



Craig_Maynard
 
Joined in 2007
January 27, 2008, 01:06

I personally wonder if a preacher strays away from God’s word… and starts condemning is already morally unstable.


Why do I say that? Because Jesus talks about people who remove a speck from someone else’s eye and yet haven’t removed the log from their own eye… simply stating that don’t pick on other people small sin when your sin is greater and deep rooted.


Its also because we place a lot of responsibility on the pastor than do we do for ourselves… we expect more from them than do we from ouselves and I wonder if so many of them drag the leaders down. It only takes a feeling of being alone, and vulnerable and once expose to elements, they have trouble fleeing because they have human needs.


To be honest, I really don’t know why some fall and others don’t … they do indeed have so much responsibilities, perhaps too much that they are seen to be invincible. Hmmmm talk about bridge over troubled water… hmmm


Sorry I seem to be rambling along…I do wonder if one fixates on a particular thing, they become that thing… they attract it to themselves… or because they expose it they are confront by the very people doing it… and somehow gets involved with the leaders…. hmmmm corrupt the leaders? When rescuing the person who is drowning… its best to not go straight to them because in panic they might drown you… so the option is to sock em out so you can drag them to safety. Hmmmm maybe the very act of panic causes people to drown the leaders in their ways.


Just throwing some thoughts out there.



Dove Snuggler
 
Joined in 2007
January 27, 2008, 02:28

People handle sex in different ways. I know first hand and second hand that church leaders in several denominations falter in one way or another. We can either focus on them or on our own journey.


If we are beyond reproach we can acknowledge that God has spared us from the human curse. Let he/she who is without since cast the first stone.


Yes, I experienced a phenomenon called sexual abuse from as early as 6 years of age , a dilemma for which I still seek acknowledgement from the church of my childhood and development. Even so I have become highly aware that several of my former peers still struggle with their own sexuality. They handle it in different ways to me, however my prayer is that they make wise moral choices.


Craig I think preachers stray because they are sexual beings too. There is no such thing as a super human preacher. I have every respect for a humble preacher even if he/she acts like a bumbling fool. I admit I usually suspect flamboyant preachers of having a narcissistic affair with their own image. That may be the root of their problem (or just my warped perspective). Power is the greatest handicap in the Christian church.


As usual its up to us to make a difference.


Kit



SP567
 
Joined in 2007
January 28, 2008, 17:59

The Pentecostal church as a whole never had any sort of restoration program for it’s ministers or it’s saints. When you fell, you were out.


The scripture said “to whom much is given, much is required.” Our church too often stated that we were the best, that we had more truth than anyone else and that others who were not like us were lacking and likely not even going to heaven. Because we were more charismatic and often less accountable, we allowed our ministers to have greater voice and authority than many other christian religions. Even with governing boards in some groups, much of what went on was left to each local church.


Without striking a sour note or sounding too churchy, I think we have left out a vital principle in all of this and that has to do with Gal 6:1. It’s about restoring someone who falls. It’s about being spiritual and handling someone’s failures in a meek, gentle way. And if you don’t, watch out! Your time is coming and good luck.


My God. How we jumped on people when they made mistakes. We learned it from what our preachers taught us. One strike, you’re out. And it came back to us and to them. They did not teach us that there was a curse that could come upon us if we did not follow this exhortation. And how many of our people were thrown out of the church for the most petty violations, much less having anything to do with being gay.


About Jimmy Swaggart. I lived in the city where he preached and was there in a different church when he fell. I even sang with a group in one of his conferences before I came out. He preached so hard against prostitutes and homosexuals. I remember asking asking myself how this could have been avoided and how different things may have been for him if he had just had someone he could have confided in or talked to about those things that had bothered him for so long. Someone he could trust. So many do not know the pressure and stress that is on someone in leadership and what targets they are from Satan and even their own church members. Someone said they’re human beings like us.


Apostle James said “confess your faults one to another and pray one for another THAT YE MAY BE HEALED.” But, who could you tell? Who in this world could you trust with such personal things. You couldn’t trust the saints because we felt we just had to tell it and the first thing you know it was all over the church. You couldn’t tell the pastor because he felt he had to smear your sins and faults in front of the whole congregation and make you an example before everybody. The pastors couldn’t tell their peers, we couldn’t tell our friends and so everyone kept everything inside until it finally ate us up and we slipped or we were “overtaken.”


Robert



Craig_Maynard
 
Joined in 2007
January 31, 2008, 00:21

People handle sex in different ways. I know first hand and second hand that church leaders in several denominations falter in one way or another. We can either focus on them or on our own journey.


If we are beyond reproach we can acknowledge that God has spared us from the human curse. Let he/she who is without since cast the first stone.


Yes, I experienced a phenomenon called sexual abuse from as early as 6 years of age , a dilemma for which I still seek acknowledgement from the church of my childhood and development. Even so I have become highly aware that several of my former peers still struggle with their own sexuality. They handle it in different ways to me, however my prayer is that they make wise moral choices.


Craig I think preachers stray because they are sexual beings too. There is no such thing as a super human preacher. I have every respect for a humble preacher even if he/she acts like a bumbling fool. I admit I usually suspect flamboyant preachers of having a narcissistic affair with their own image. That may be the root of their problem (or just my warped perspective). Power is the greatest handicap in the Christian church.


As usual its up to us to make a difference.


Kit


Hey, so sorry about your experience at younger than 6 yrs old. You’ve been burdened with being totally switched on sex at that young age.


Yeah I agree with you about the fact that preachers are human… I think what many many people forget is that they have this supernatural powers which makes them sexually attractive and addictive. So yeah… we all ae hotwired supernaturally and its like we have electricity flowing through us when we are connected to God’s power grid.


Hmmmmm we all deal with our sexuality in so many different ways… I just always hope that someone is there to move em to the next stage… one the worst ones are those who are so acutely embarrassed and push people away and can’t think of other alternative or slow time down a little… breathe easier and just take it easy. Sigh.


Too much power is a handicap. I’m totally with you on that point that “flamboyant preachers of having a narcissistic affair with their own image. That may be the root of their problem (or just my warped perspective).” It kind of feed them to bigger things for self pleasure… and they get addicted to it… and it feeds itself over and over again.


I think its good that we focus on our own journey and not on everyone else’s journey… sure we can help out once in a while. Sometimes our paths crosses each other… so yeah. Hmmmm



magsdee
Disabled
Joined in 2006
January 31, 2008, 08:37

I agree that we just gotta let people walk out there own journey and yes if we can help sure but not tread on their toes in the process. Someone said to me once to stop being Jesus to everyone and what she meant was “stop carrying the full responsibility of burdens for others and over sacrificing, Jesus already did that you dont need to, give it to him and point them to him and let them be answerable for their own mistakes, stop trying to even make up for what they have lost because you never fully will.” I tell you it made a huge difference to my life and to this day I still have to remind myself not to do it.


I think people in leadership get caught in the trap of trying to make it right for everyone sometimes too and take on wayyyyyy too much responsibility for peoples journeys, we cant fix everything for everyone and what works for one may not work for another and so when things dont happen as they envisaged or expected they feel like failures and that is a recipe in itself for a leaning toward either alcohol or drug abuse or sleeping around to get the high or boost to feel better. And I think sometimes we as humans place too much expectation on leaders as well and man that must be such pressure to them, there always needs to be a realistic element placed into things to a degree, it doesnt mean you cant aim high, it just means dont over project and make room for errors to occur…….Dunno just my thoughts.



Craig_Maynard
 
Joined in 2007
February 1, 2008, 08:18

Wow what an inspiring talk … thanks… its serves as a reminder to me to just focus on myself and doing my little bit to help others. We have this in our head that we must help and carry people… when sometimes all they want is someone to walk beside them and just be friends. hmmmm it does make sense you know.


My heart will always go out to leaders who have fallen or made a mistake. They are only human and they have their strength and weaknesses like us. Smiling. Thanks Magsdee for adding that perspective.


Ta


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