I guess one of my most significant experiences I have ever had with vulnerability was in writing my autobiography.
I knew I had to be honest and make sure it was a ‘tell all’…….the reader can tell if the writer is holding something back and raises questions that will never be answered. They finish the book feeling ripped off.
So I talked openly about my sexual addiction, stupid decisions, weaknesses, hypocrisy and things I am was not proud of doing. I revealed my shame. I remember when I received the first hard copy and opened it up. The page was on a particularly revealing passage and suddenly it hit me. OMG…..what have i done. I can’t take this back. I have now made all this public for people to judge and condemn me. TALK ABOUT FEELING VULNERABLE.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :O :O :O :~ :~ :~ 🙁 🙁 🙁
Can you imagine telling the whole world your inner most secrets and experiences you have never shared with even your closests friends and family members.
What I didn’t realise of course at that time was the profound impact this honesty might have on others.
Then the emails began literally pouring into my inbox. Many began with “Thank you so much for your honesty……your story is my story” ……..and in the rest of the email they poured out their hearts to me about their own experiences for the very first time……which began a healing for them. So in being completely honest I created a space for others to face their demons.
out of that has come so much eg Freedom 2 b[e] …and many, many other things …..and as they say….the rest is history.
and taught me that WHEN WE CHOOSE TO LIVE AUTHENTICALLY WE CHIP AWAY AT OTHERS PRISONS OF PRETEND AND GIVE THEM THE COURAGE TO WALK OUT INTO FREEDOM! 🙂 😀