But, in answer to the question specifically and not someone else’s thoughts.
I think we are responsible for those feelings, but not how they respond to those feelings.
When people have feelings about this stuff, there is nothing we can do about it. We can walk away, or be patient and work with them, or a little from both. Usually, when we walk away it is not because of the feeling, but because of their action in response to that feeling.
we are what made that feeling occur, in the situation of sexuality, we need to be patient, whilst also protecting ourselves