Hi Michelle…..I moved this to join with your orginal story ……I hope that is okay with you. If not then let me know and i’ll change things back……it just keep the thoughts and story together.
Four Christian sisters!
PostPosted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 10:23 pm Post subject: Four Christian sisters! Reply with quote
Not long after I began my relationship with Linda I decided to come out to my sisters (one at a time!) It was funny that I thought I would know how they would react, because they are my sisters and I knew them sooo well, but boy was I wrong! The one who is 8yrs older and who has been a Christian for a very long time was always the most diplomatic, compassionate and caring of others turned on me the most! I had told her about Linda and I and at the time she appeared quite calm and collected about it, understandably shocked and surprised, but ok. It was probably a week or so later that she rang me with the threat to out me to my parents. My dad and I have a good relationship and my intent was to tell him first but obviously when I was ready. You see Linda and I had planned a trip away and my parents had agreed to look after my daughters. Well my sister felt that I was forcing them to support my ‘lesbian lifestyle’ without their knowledge and was therefore lying to them. She gave me a 6hr deadline to call them or she would! I was devastated by this and rang another sister ( her twin) with whom I was very close and told her what had happened. She was sympathetic but in agreeance of her actions. Talk about feeling betrayed! Crying or Very sad I ended up biting the bullet and calling my father that night. He was so good to me that night. He told me he already knew, I asked him how and he replied ” I’m not blind kid” and also that “your sisters are the last ones who should throw stones.” It was comforting to know that even though he may not like my choice he still supported me. My relationship with that sister is civil at best. We don’t speak much at all. However Linda was on the Christmas card this year! My other 3 sisters are pretty good. They are warm to my lady and that is really nice to see. I think they see me so happy and cannot deny why that is! Very Happy
Michelle
PostPosted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 11:36 pm Post subject: Reply with quote
one step at a time……..glad you had a sensible dad. Often we go through such truama worrying about how people might react only to discover that they knew all the time.
its certainly never anyone elses right to out us…….but occasionally they force us to do what we have put off.
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Anthony Venn-Brown
Co-convenor – Freedom 2 b[e]
Author of ‘A Life of Unlearning’
http://www.anthonyvennbrown.com/book.html
“When we choose to live authentically, we chip away at others prisons of pretend and give them the courage to walk free”
PostPosted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 11:57 pm Post subject: Reply with quote
I told my sister first when I came out ten years ago because she was very anti-church at the time and I knew she would be accepting and she was. However last year she found God again and is going to an apostolic church. She is starting to tell me things like, “You know God doesn’t approve of that” and, “I’m praying that God will change you”.
Spare me. Rolling Eyes
Raskdog
PostPosted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 5:09 pm Post subject: Reply with quote
It is kindve sucky when you get outed but parents do usually know. Thank goodness your Dad has been so good. Very Happy
I came out to my sister 1st time in 1987, she was shocked and asked lots of questions but was ok and it didnt affect us. This time round( I went in and out o the closet a few times Rolling Eyes ) she isnt so accepting and thinks women cant have any form of satisfactory sex Rolling Eyes Laughing but anyway we talk but for reasons unknown she cant be happy that Im happy, she finds my g/f a threat from what I have discovered. Its only recently she even looks at her when she is spoken to.
magsdee
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