Hey Steveo,
I think there are certainly moments in life where thoughts or things that have been said can make you doubt things. I myself have been angry at the fact that I cannot hear God. I hear of people being able to hear Him through whispers and what not, but I simply cannot. A while back, I normally would have fallen into my own self pity trap, *think* God was ignoring me, vote on it without questioning it, *believe* that thought, and then get angry at Him. But recently I have begun a new way of thinking after discovering Byron Katie (more info at the bottom of the page about her). I thought, you know what, I don't think God minds questions, but He is not to blame, and to question things, it can sometimes help you find a deeper faith (quote from 'Prayers for Bobby'). And I think it is vital to question things that you are unsure about, and go in search of answers.
When I was a kid, I was literally forced to go to church with my parents (I still remember the extremely loud christian music thumping in my ears as a child whilst colouring in things in my drawing book). There were some things I remember pastors preaching which I thought were a bit hypocritical of them saying, especially when they made homophobic remarks, yet told everyone to love thy neighbour (Well, from THEIR views, if being gay is sinful or whatever, what if your neighbour is gay? Do you not love them also?). Needless to say I found a LOT of hypocrisy in many of the mainstream churches. I suppose it was these hypocrisies that drove me to question everything I had ever learnt. Now I am always trying to find truth in everything, and I am not sure if any of the below will be helpful to you, but it has been for me, so there is a good chance it may be helpful to you.
Just a quick note by the way… going back to the point where I say that pastor said being gay is sinful and whatever, I have since learnt that the bible and the clobber passages in particular aren't condemning homosexuality at all (In fact homosexuality can be found in over 400 animal species too, yet homophobia is only found in 1 species – humans, lol). And homosexuality isn't a sin, if it were, heterosexuality would also be a sin etc. (moral of the story here: you can't choose who you fall in love with, and falling in love with whoever it is, is not a sin). I have also learnt that the bible must be read and understood in the FULL context in which it was written – both in time, and in hospitality laws. Some of it may not be relevant today, in fact I KNOW some of it isn't, especially the part about stoning children to death for disobeying their parents (We would all be doomed to hell if that were the case!), so I think the bible, from my perspective, must be treated more like an essential guide to life (but understood in its full context), and there are many amazing stories in there which can help us relate to what happens in todays society/generation.
It is for that very reason that I am getting myself a new bible, because the one I currently have I just simply cannot understand or relate to in any way for my generation atleast. So I did some research and came across this Jeff Bethke guy, who also made a very popular video which I personally believe to be very truthful in it's meaning (each to their own though!). So below are a few links which you might find helpful.
Jeff Bethke on why he hates religion but loves Jesus (Jesus confronted many pharisees in their teachings, most of which were unchristian in their views. If the second coming of Jesus happened in this day and age, I believe He would confront many of those pharisees – especially people from the Westboro Baptist Church!):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1IAhDGYlpqY
Some highly recommended books from Jeff: (I noticed I had the unchristian book before I saw the list, so immediately I could tell my own journey and truth was unfolding in doing this research about what Jesus really wanted for us, and ultimately my mum purchased 3 books for my christmas present from some of these recommended books – they all seem very interesting reads anyway)
http://pinterest.com/jeffersonbethke/favorite-books/
The bible I'm getting – it sounds like it has a lot of study notes and context which explains the passages and how they relate to things we go through in life these days. It might be your cup of tea, it might not, worth a look anyway:
http://pinterest.com/pin/81064862013594219/
^ You can click on the bible picture to find it on Amazon.com, there may be cheaper versions elsewhere though, so worth checking around if you do decide it's something you're interested in.
Now below is an example of 'the work' from Byron Katie. I stumbled across her on YouTube and it was one of the best stumblings I have ever come across. I found this video on 'Being Gay Is Unnatural: Is It True?'. It answered so many of my own thoughts and it REALLY gave me some closure for myself and my thinking, so you may find it helps you here too? There are also a ton of books by her which you might find helpful as she looks at four particular questions which basically answers everything. Here is the video anyway:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=98ApKUqb-RQ
But yeah, going back to my first paragraph. Recently I have been frustrated at not hearing God, so I have looked into how I can communicate with Him, and so I did some more research. I looked on iTunes and came across a few really great sermons on 'how to listen to God'. What I learnt was that we were given 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason. We need to listen TWICE as much as we speak. And the pastor went on to say when we pray, most of the time, we say something along the lines of 'God, if only this happened' and 'God, if only you gave me a sign for this problem'. It's all 'me, me, me, I, I, I'. What I didn't realize is that God already knows me inside AND out. What I needed to realize is that I should stop and listen to what God has to say before saying Amen and to stop bolting off to live out the rest of the day without allowing Him to respond! So I am now working on listening to God rather than constantly asking for this and that, because He already knows my deepest desires and needs (He doesn't need to know, because He already does), and I (emphasis on I) haven't been listening to Him.
I have learnt a lot (and still am learning), and thanks to Jeff Bethke, Byron Katie, God's grace and a whole bunch of sermons which I believe to be truthful in their message, I'm slowly but surely finding inner peace with my own struggles.
So I really hope all that helps Steveo 🙂
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