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Thingymabobie
 
Joined in 2011
July 6, 2012, 20:58

I am currently writing a response to this article, which I will post later.


However, I would like to know YOUR thoughts on this. This guy is not a hate filled bigot, but a nice guy, who preaches grace and is concerned with godliness and scriptural faithfulness. I generally love his articles. However, I obviously took exception to this… He DOES make some good points, but a lot of *bad* ones (at least from my point of view). I also encourage you to reply, if you feel too. Just, as you all do, keep it respectful so we can lovingly put *our* / your own personal view (since there are so many views on this forum) across.


Taken from http://www.charismaministries.org/homosexuality-and-christianity/


The direct blunt question is really ‘Can a person be saved and a homosexual at the same time?’ My answer is yes and no, depending on how you define a few concepts. This is because I believe it comes down to a question of identity as well as your value system.


Firstly as a Christian, you are to find your identity in Christ. Jesus is the cornerstone of your true identity. 1 John 4:17 says that we are as Jesus is in this world. Now I don’t believe Jesus is a homosexual (since He is waiting for a bride, not a groom) therefore to claim or express a Christian homosexual identity is not a true expression of your real identity, which is Christ. In the same way that murder, living in adultery, stealing or lying is not an expression of one’s true Christ-like identity, or the expression of Christ in me.


Secondly, where do get your value system from? If you get it from your feelings, then your values will change with your feelings. Saying homosexuality is right because you were born that way and can’t help your feelings, passions and desires leads down a slippery slope. What if another person claims that they were born to rape children? They also say they can’t help their feelings, passions and desires, so therefore raping children is right in their opinion. Who are you to judge them? Feelings and passions towards certain actions don’t make the actions right.


One’s value system cannot be based on one’s feelings; otherwise your values will change with your mood swings. It needs to come from an unchangeable source. As a Christian, we find our value system in Christ, and as such homosexuality is once again ousted. Now to make this claim I have to take the stance that homosexuality is a sin, because sin is not an expression of Christ’s identity nor His value system.


Now many of the people who will disagree with me when I say it is a sin will now tell me that if I believe this to be a sin and voice me opinion of it, that I will have to equally oppose things like shaving my beard, eating pork and wearing clothes weaved of different materials, things I willingly do all the time.


This is actually a very typical argument that assumes I define sin by the law. I don’t. The law was never applicable to me thus the prohibitions made in it are not for me either. I define homosexuality as a sin based on the definition of sin: To miss the mark. Let me explain:


Human beings were created by God way before the law. And even before the fall of man, they had a purpose to fulfill: Bear His image, subdue the earth, be fruitful and multiply. As I have already said, Jesus is not a homosexual, so already here homosexuality misses the marked purpose of bearing His image.


Since it is also impossible for two men or two woman to procreate, they also miss the mark on the be fruitful and multiply front. Since they can’t multiply, they will only be able to subdue and tend the earth for one generation before going extinct. Based on those three missed marks, I hold that homosexuality is a sin.


Now before someone set the hounds on me, I differentiate between only 2 kinds of sin. Forgiven and unforgiven. Homosexuality falls into the forgiven kind since the only unforgiven sin that remains is unbelief in Christ. So when I teach, as I have done since learning about grace, that our sins are forgiven past, present and future, then I include homosexuality in that.


Yes, homosexuality is forgiven just like any other sin, past present and future. So no matter what expression of sin you still have in your life after salvation, be it porn, drugs, adultery, stealing, homosexuality or whatever, Christ has provided forgiveness for that. So based on that principle, I believe a person can be truly saved and yet still live their life contrary to their reborn nature, which includes amongst others, homosexuality.


That being said, I believe Jesus is fully capable of having a relationship with people no matter their sexual preferences. I don’t know about you but sex is not all life is about and my identity is certainly not defined by my sex-life. It is merely one part, it is not the only part. I can at times fail to express Christ in me in one area, but excel at expressing Him in many other areas.


Despite the fact that I personally have many faults in my life, from character flaws to the occasional behavioural missteps, I am still able to reveal and express Christ. He is expressed despite my shortcomings, my mistakes, my faults and my weaknesses, but that does not excuse them for He has supplied me with the power to live free of them. There are things I am working on and renewing my mind to by His grace daily. I have not arrived, but I have left.


Whilst thinking on all these things I kept being drawn to the story of Jesus and the woman caught in the act of adultery. When I asked Jesus why, He told me to substitute any other sin in the place of adultery. (See John 8:4)


And they said to Him, “Teacher, this person was caught in homosexuality, in the very act.”


And they said to Him, “Teacher, this person was caught watching porn, in the very act.”


And they said to Him, “Teacher, this person was caught stealing, in the very act.”


And they said to Him, “Teacher, this person was caught lying, in the very act.”


Jesus response was that he who has not sinned could throw the first stone. Since all have sinned, nobody can throw any stones except Jesus. After all the condemning hypocrites have left, Jesus turns to whomever is caught in whichever act and tells them He does not condemn them. Then He adds, go and sin no more.


When I hear those words, ‘Go and sin no more’ I am not hearing a conditional release or a law to obey. I am hearing an encouragement from Jesus. I hear Him empowering me to live free from sin by saying, ‘When you live this way, you are choosing to live below the best I have for you. Go and live in the abundance I have provided and forget about these things that merely rob you of precious elements of life. Look, the doors of the prison are open, leave and be free.’


After this Jesus asked me how I think He would react if this same woman were again caught in the act of adultery a few days later? I said, ‘The same way?’ and He said, ‘Exactly. Where sin abounds grace abounds much more. I can see the true woman, and I love her. These affairs are not who she really is.”


God has made us kings, and when we choose to live as paupers, it does not take away from the fact that we are kings. But once we see and come to experience life as kings, living like paupers will not be appealing to us at all. If you had $10 million dollars in the bank, would you choose to live on the streets?


Having said all that let me readdress the question from the start of this article. Can a person be saved and a homosexual at the same time? No. One is either a Christian or a homosexual. You can’t express two contrasting identities at the same time. 1 Cor 6:9-11 makes this clear. Verse 11 says ‘and such were some of you.’ That means that there was a change in identity. You are no longer a homosexual, an adulterer, a drunk, a thief or any of the other sin identities listed.


Can a person be saved and ACT in homosexual ways? Yes. Just like a person can be saved, go through a divorce, gossip, commit adultery, get drunk and do many of the other things listed in the same verses. Yet we don’t call their salvation into question as readily.


Salvation is a change in identity, and subsequently a change in the expression of identity. So when a saved person with a new nature chooses to engage in homosexuality, they are merely acting in a particular manner, they are not expressing their true selves in one particular area. Even the word act is a word that means to pretend. You are merely pretending, you are not being your real self.


Robin Williams played the role of a gay man, Armand Goldman, in the 1996 movie, ‘The Birdcage’. Williams is heterosexual in real life, Armand was only an act, a role he portrayed. To say you are a Christian and a homosexual is like saying Armand Goldman is the true identity while Robin Williams is an act. If Williams were to dress as Armand and go about his everyday life acting like Armand, people who know him will soon ask, ‘What are you doing? You are Robin Williams, not Armand Goldman.’ Your real identity is not homosexual, but you can choose to act homosexually.


Further to this there is the question about expressing sexuality in eternity. Scripture is not very clear on that so we can only speculate. Yet Matt 22:30 says that in heaven we will not marry nor be given in marriage. Sex outside of marriage is called a sin by various Old and New Testament writers, which can lead one to conclude that if we aren’t to marry nor are given in marriage, perhaps sexual intercourse is no longer a driving passion in heaven.


Perhaps the joys and pleasure experienced in our glorified bodies in heaven will make sex pale in comparison. With our glorified bodies we will be holy and complete on all levels, just like Jesus. Completeness means there is no longer any need. That would logically include sexual needs. If heaven is a divine place without need and want, then sexual intercourse might not be high priority there since it is almost entirely a need and want based passion.


And keeping with the Christ-like identity, if you are a Christian who engages in homosexuality, I believe that once you get to heaven you will no longer express that identity because you will be completely expressed in your true form, Christ-like, and that does not include homosexuality for Christ is not a homosexual.


Now I know this article is not all encompassing, but at this point in time this is my current conclusion.


You might believe you were born a certain way, but as a Christian, you are reborn in a different way.


Grace and peace


Cornel



Thingymabobie
 
Joined in 2011
July 11, 2012, 12:49

This was my response 🙂


Cornel,


This is a very interesting post. I like what you have said in part and disagree with what you have said in part. However, I’m not sure why exactly I disagree with your particular arguments.


I am a Christian who has a homosexual orientation. I once, on a day of great confusion and despair asked God, “am I gay?” and felt him respond “No”.


I found this to be distressing, as I was coming to a place of accepting that part of me. I asked Him, “So, am I straight?” again I heard him reply, “No.”


Obviously, this was quite confusing! “Well, God, what am I?”


“You are my son, whom I love. That is your identity, and nothing else!” was Father’s reply. I am more than one part of me, and I am certainly not defined by my sexuality.


I agree with you, one is to not find their indentity in anything other than Christ.


However, I think I take issue with some of the arguments you use.


“Now I don’t believe Jesus is a homosexual (since He is waiting for a bride, not a groom) therefore to claim or express a Christian homosexual identity is not a true expression of your real identity, which is Christ.”


I think this is a bit of a stretch of an argument. Yes, Jesus is coming back for a “bride”; but that bride consists of male and females (and those who would be considered asexual). He is not marrying “one” person, but (billions? trillions?) of people. So, by the logic that (I might be reading into) from your post (I admit I may misunderstand you), Jesus is actually bi-sexual and into polygamy.


Secondly, Jesus never married nor appeared to show any romantic or sexual interest in anyone whilst on earth. If one wants to use the life of Jesus’ as an example on married relationships, they should conclude that we are to remain celibate.


“In the same way that murder, living in adultery, stealing or lying is not an expression of one’s true Christ-like identity, or the expression of Christ in me… What if another person claims that they were born to rape children? They also say they can’t help their feelings, passions and desires, so therefore raping children is right in their opinion. Who are you to judge them? Feelings and passions towards certain actions don’t make the actions right.”


This one kind of hurt, to be honest. Murder, commiting adultery, stealing, lying or raping children are all things that people *do*. Generally, they are also not something that people become aware of in themselves from a young age that they have inclinations to *do* those things, or that they are somehow different to those around them for having inclinations to do those things. Now, I am not naive, I work with youth at risk and in welfare, I am aware of the lows of human nature. But, most people growing up don’t wrestle with “I am liar, an adulter, a child rapist”. They may struggle with the desire to lie (pretty much every kid), but they still see it as something they *do* rather than something that they are. Talk to pretty much any person with a homosexual orientation, and they will tell you that they were aware that THEY were different, that there was something about THEM, that was *wrong* in comparison to everyone else. Mostly, this was before they had even hit puberty and the sexual urge kicked in. They were aware that they were “gay” maybe even before they had a framework to describe it.


I admit that I am not explaining myself very well.


Secondly, lying, adultery, raping children are all things which destroy relationships. They hurt people. Having a homosexual orientation does not hurt anyone in and of itself. Nor do I see how a consenting sexual act within the confines of a loving relationship is hurtful. Yes, you can use the whole marriage argument. But, IF two people of the same sex were allowed to marry and they were committed to loving one another, serving one another till death do they part etc, I fail to see how whatever sexual acts they commit to out of love for one another (that goes beyond mere lust) can be likened to the raping of a child. Yes, I’m coming for the place where I’m considering the possibility that homosexual sex might not be wrong, but, please, at least admit there might be some logic in my argument here?


“Jesus is not a homosexual, so already here homosexuality misses the marked purpose of bearing His image.”


Jesus is also not married, nor a woman. Are they missing the mark?


Jesus never had sex. Are all those engaging in sexual intercourse missing the mark?


“Since it is also impossible for two men or two woman to procreate, they also miss the mark on the be fruitful and multiply front. Since they can’t multiply, they will only be able to subdue and tend the earth for one generation before going extinct. Based on those three missed marks, I hold that homosexuality is a sin.”


Nor can celibate people, people who are incapable of having children, nor married couples who chose not to have children. Whilst they can all still subdue and tend the earth but don’t have babies, are they all in sin? From studies that I have read, there is only a consistant 3-10% of the world population who have a homosexual orientation. Not nearly enough to halt population growth.


Also, would it not be fair to say that we have kind of fulfilled that? Surely it’s safe to say that the world if pret-ty full? Is there much of a need to fill the earth? Surely with anywhere from 90-97% of the population having a hetrosexual orientation (or normal orientation, depending on how you view it), we’re pretty safe with the continuing of the human race.


“I believe Jesus is fully capable of having a relationship with people no matter their sexual preferences. I don’t know about you but sex is not all life is about and my identity is certainly not defined by my sex-life. It is merely one part, it is not the only part.”


Amen, He is. I agree, my identity is not defined by my sex life. If that were the case, I would be “nothing”, as I have never had sex nor plan to anytime in the near future. However, whilst you seem to admit that the act of sex is not the whole of your being, you seem to equate having homosexual sex with being the “whole” of being “a” homosexual. As I said, I have never had sex. I also don’t view myself as “a” homosexual; I am more than my sexual orientation. However, I still admit that PART of my identity, part of me that makes me ME, is that I have a homosexual orientation. Just as there is PART of you, that has a heterosexual orientation. You are not “a” heterosexual, but you are hetrosexual. Even if I never express my sexuality in a sexual act, I will (unless God ‘fixes’ me) remain having a homosexual orientation. It doesn’t just affect whom I want to have sex with, but also the way I relate to the world, to people, in relationships. It is NOT me, but it is a big contributing factor to who I am. I don’t meant this as a cop out, but unless you have had to painstakingly assess and question your sexual orientation and how you relate to the world, to discover the mannerisms, the words, your likes, your dislikes that “give you away” as being, you will not understand how much it affects you. Am I making sense?



Ash
 
Joined in 2012
July 11, 2012, 13:25

That article made me kind of mad.


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