What I meant to ask was could the females penis envy contribute to an obsession with “size” that we often see portayed in gay circles, and especially in gay media?
Please forgive my ignorance of what “gay circles” and “gay media” are generally like but I’d like to respond to this anyway.
Freud suggests that small boys (between three and five) have a disjointed relationship with the father because of what Freud terms castration anxiety but is probably better termsed emasculation. (It might just be me but castration anxiety always conjures imagines of a scary dude with a knife chopping off important anatomy). The young boys wants the relationship with his mother that the father has and expereinces jealousy and anxiety.
The girl on the other hand relates to the father from a position of reverance because he has something she wants (and the scary dude hasn’t yet cut off) the mother is seen as “less than” the father. Does that make sense? It needs to be pointed out that this phenomenona is very different for boys and girls.
In terms of it leading to homosexuality the general maxim goes that men are attracted to men because they do not have to then fear constant emasculation and rivalry against women. With a man they are more emotionally secure and safer. For women its, I guess, about being able to play out the role of the “butch” and finally, metaphorically, get that penis.
In terms of the size debate in gay circles you could be right mobile guy but looking at it from the little boys perspective a larger size might suggest you are more masculine than others which soothes the unresolved anxiety that you constantly have to compete with others.
If your interested there is plenty on the net about all of this. Freud’s theories are almost never taken at face value in psychology circles and are added upon and revised by more contemporary professionals as new information comes to light. Perhaps looking at what people have to say about the Oedipus complex today will help shed some more practical light on the issue because while I know little about gay men I have a hard time believing the Oedipus complex applies to them in this way; it doesn’t make a whole lot of sense to me.
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