Coming out at 51

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Rainbow Girl
Joined in 2011
December 7, 2011, 06:05

Hi Princess _Fiona

Thanks so much for your words of encouragement.

This forum is a lifeline for you….keep connected in. I'm sorry it has been a lonely journey for you. I understand that feeling. When I first came out to myself I suddenly felt very alone and began to be anxious. Anthony was my lifeline, and now I have people around who support me also. Its a hard journey to walk alone.

You will grow stronger. The book you mentioned sounds good…I will keep an eye open for the title. We have a library at the MCC church I belong to.

I'll keep you in my prayers.

Princess _Fiona
Joined in 2011
December 7, 2011, 10:51

Hi Rainbow

The article I mentioned, is found here (hoping that link works). I haven't read it all yet, as I'm reading bite size pieces at a time. Glad your church has a library, I'm sure you will find some good resources there.

Enjoy your day.


Joined in 2006
December 7, 2011, 14:12

Hi, WOW!!!!!!!!!!!! I never knew…high fives for accepting yourself and knowing God loves you 🙂 Were with you when you get the courage to finally talk with your husband, you'll know when its right 😉 Awesome story!

Rainbow Girl
Joined in 2011
December 7, 2011, 14:49

Princess _Fiona

thanks for the link…I actually had a look around and found the resources…some good stuff to read.

Hi Magsdee

Hi sis….thanks for the high five and your kind thoughts. Yes I'll know when the time is right. I'm composing a letter for him to read first. Easier to get it out how I want and not get emotional or get into an argument. After that we'll talk.

Hugs….Rainbow Girl

Rainbow Girl
Joined in 2011
December 7, 2011, 14:53

magsdee….how do you get the smileys with the new layout?….I haven't figured that one out yet.


December 8, 2011, 10:13

Wow, good for you 🙂

Rainbow Girl
Joined in 2011
December 8, 2011, 11:22

Thanks Sophia…

The next weeks and months will be a challenge. Each day I tell another one or two people…all safe and affirming people at the moment.

Rainbow Girl


December 8, 2011, 15:10

That sounds like a good way to go…you don't even have to keep telling people if you don't want to, but having affirming people around who know is very empowering 🙂 Well done you!

Rainbow Girl
Joined in 2011
December 9, 2011, 10:24

phoenix_fyre…thanks for the encouraging words.

And thanks to all you fabulous Freedom 2b people…you are wonderful.

I actually want everyone to know…well not every single person, but those who need to know. I'm finding it hard to plan who to tell … when and how… I have certain ones on a list. So far, no one in my family knows. Only friends. Wonderful friends who are either gay, lesbian or transgender…and one who is an advocate. Two people had already guessed…wow!!

My younger sister is coming to stay next week for a few days. I will come out to her and I know she'll be supportive. She is very open-minded. She'll be great!

I have my letter written, ready to give to my husband. I'll write another one for some other family members. Its easier with a letter. Especially when you try to avoid confrontations at the best of times….which I do. Who likes to confront someone with really tough news? Not many.

I'll be relieved when its all out in the open. 18 people know now!!

I will let you know how it goes with my sister….and my family…whichever comes first.

Hugs and love to all…

Rainbow Girl

Mother Hen
Joined in 2011
December 9, 2011, 10:40

Wow Rainbow girl, you are doing extremely well. It's good you now have a strong group of friends who can give you love and support for when you tell your family.

As far as who to tell and when, I would say not to feel obliged to tell every one.Tell only who you want to tell. Maybe ask yourself why do they need to know at this time, will it be beneficial for them but mostly for you. As to when, sometimes timing just has a way of working things out, you don't plan to say something then the opportunity comes up so you do. You plan to tell someone and then the timing never seems to be right. It seems timing can have a mind of it's own sometimes.

I would think telling your husband would be the big one and one of the most important ones. Do you have a time frame in mind when you would like to tell him? Let us know if you do so we can all be praying for you.

I can appreciate you will be keen to tell people and then be able to move forward in your life. The waiting for the right time isn't always fun.

Whoever you tell and whatever timing it is in, I wish you all the best and will keep praying for you. Your strength and courage will carry you through.

God Bless

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