Hi Brunski……there is amazing support for gay couples where one partner is from overseas and has been operating for many years. its call the Gay and Lesbian Immigration Task Force.

It is quite a process though to go through in order for the couple to prove there are genuinely in love and have and will have a long term relationship. It is a lot of work….and a lot of pressure.

Considering the concerns that you have and the issues you are working through I dont think you need that additional pressures ATM. I think your attention should be on working through those things and coming to a place where you feel comfortable with yourself and the relationship is strong. Without a resolution of the inner things……your relationship with be undermined.

yes I believe you have to prove you have been in a relationship for at least 12 months. he would need a good immigration lawyer who would be able to advise him of all the conditions…….he could try the G&L Immigration Task for first though…….I know one…and he is gay. if interested then email me.

Thanks Mother Hen, its nice to know that you are thinking of and praying for me. I really appreciate it!

Its been a tough few days/week health wise, I had a few more seizures (I have epilepsy, don’t recal if I mentioned that) and spent a couple of days in hospital. But all is good now, just hoping it stays that way, bloody epilepsy really pisses me of sometimes J) oops, good Christians don’t talk like that :~

Still trying to work things out and still trying to see if I can and if I really want to sponsor my partner … (not sure if I mention the whole “Mills and Boons” partner/sponsorship saga). Geeze life gets complicated sometimes :~

Anyway … hope you are well and hope you have a splendid week 🙂

Oh also been staying over my parents place these last few days and though they have Internet access, I dont tend to visit any “gay orientated” sites while there :p

God bless,

Brunski

Your welcome Mother Hen,

yes life can be or rather, is a struggle, but your right, the tough keep going and I’ve been through my fair share of struggle and God has always got me through them even if, at times I wish he would “hurry up” lol

I hope so too, seeing my Neurologist tomorrow, Im sure he wont say anything new, just the usual, “had any seizures?” “Yes” “your medication levels are low, lets increase them too … ” its so predictable!

I hope you have a good week as well and so too, everyone here in this forum.

Oh by the way, I came out to one of my Church friends, she told me that she suspected that I was gay and of course, she believes homosexuality is a sin and “goes back to God original plan for mankind” but, “we shouldn’t judge others, even though I often do” -she is no longer part of my church, so it was kind of “safe” to come out to her lol

About my partner sponsorship well, I do want to sponsor him (at least I think I do) but sadly, there is still that niggling fear in the back of my head, wondering whether he is just using me and if or when he gets residency, he will simply disappear or our relationship will go down hill from there. Of course the other problem is that I am not out and I guess still “coming to terms” with my sexuality and he is not a Christian. Obviously, he wants to stay here, he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me … he is a lot younger then I which also makes me question his motives, but I guess age shouldn’t come into it. I just know and have met so many gay men who enter a relationship with younger and often Asian guys, only to find that once they gain permanent residency, they simply back their bags and move on … Anyway, time will tell. One day at a time, I have other problems to focus on at the moment, this is just an added bit of stress. 🙁

Hi Anne Marie,

thanks, its good “to be back” 🙂 My epilepsy is just one of those things, just when I think its improving it comes back to bite me. Oh well …

It was my birthday on Wednesday and I spent the night with my partner which was wonderful, I believe that he loves me and I am realising more and more that the feeling is mutual. But still,there is still some uncertainty about the whole situation anyway, I am sure I will work it out eventually!

God bless,

Brunski