Sweeeet… Thanks Anthony 😀

Heh… sorry, you being up so late is probably partly my fault, what with my constant talking and all. 😛 Oh well, I hope it was still helpful. 🙂

OK.

So I was up to nearly 3am last night writing this letter. No doubt the hardest thing I have ever done.

My aim is for 3 pages, No more, no less. I just want to make sure I get everything I need to in it.

Ill be posting the very rough draft on here when i am happy with it for anyone’s thoughts.

Shan

I think no more than three pages is good.

think construction…..what do you parents need to hear first.

then build to the facts……..finish with a good positive statement and give them back thier power to respond appropriately.

dont mention any negatives.

.,…..I”ve really got to find the time to write all this stuff up in more detail

Shan,

You’ve been having some very long nights! but it sounds like you are making good preparations. This is such a liberating time for you!! Getting your head together. When I left my family it was months before I even knew that Anthony’s book existed, before I found Christian gay people (I wasn’t even sure that they existed!) and before I knew that God loved all of me. So you’re way ahead of some of us!!

The structure for your letter seems good. I think the idea of providing someone your mother can talk to is a really good idea. If she’s into the internet, then you could give her a few websites? (or print stuff off?). PFLAG might be a good one: http://www.pflagaustralia.org.au/ Also, they may provide resources and telephone advice. She needs to be able to work through this- and giving her options on how to do that will be helpful for her.

Keep up the dialogue with us- as you’ve found there are lots of people who have been there- and are wlling to support you.

Ian

Ian & Ann… Thanks so much for your advise… I am honestly not sure about PFLAG for starters… Might have a look through for material and print it out… Thinking best to keep to Christian stuff as I anticipate that will be her first worry… Second to that health issues *rolls eyes*

The friend I have nominated is a strong Christian… Not 100% sure about her being down with everything… but I can trust her which is the main thing for me at the moment…

I have been getting about 3 hours sleep every night… … I am feeling absolutely sick for the last week and have barely eaten and cant keep down what I have.

This is causing me so much stress it is unbelievable… The earliest opportunity for me to leave this letter is late June, I wish I could do it earlier. As stupid as it sounds this letter feels like a huge burden and I just need to get it done. I want to just blurt it out but I don’t think that would be best for the situation.

Anyone up for a random add on facebook?

S