Anthony: Wow… Awesome response :D… It seriously is an amazing book… Such an encouragement! Haven’t finished it and it has already taken the title of favourite book from my previous one.

I don’t think the stress will go until I do become truthful… I think it is something I need to do for myself…

After the discussion Mom & I had yesterday i think she will be a little better than I thought… Although still planning for the worst.

Thanks… I will seriously think about it…

The male biological unit will not be informed… We left it (and the majority of it’s abuse) when I was 6. It has no need for truth. I am just worried about mom… Its sounds silly I know… But it kinda feels like I am really gunna turn her world upside down.

Thanks again Anthony 🙂

Off to finish this great book 😉

Shan

P.S. As of 8pm I finished “A Life Of Unlearning”…. Was in tears through most of the last chapter… Awesome awesome book!

Anthony: Wow… Awesome response :D… It seriously is an amazing book… Such an encouragement! Haven’t finished it and it has already taken the title of favourite book from my previous one.

I don’t think the stress will go until I do become truthful… I think it is something I need to do for myself…

After the discussion Mom & I had yesterday i think she will be a little better than I thought… Although still planning for the worst.

Thanks… I will seriously think about it…

The male biological unit will not be informed… We left it (and the majority of it’s abuse) when I was 6. It has no need for truth. I am just worried about mom… Its sounds silly I know… But it kinda feels like I am really gunna turn her world upside down.

Thanks again Anthony 🙂

Off to finish this great book 😉

Shan

P.S. As of 8pm I finished “A Life Of Unlearning”…. Was in tears through most of the last chapter… Awesome awesome book!

sounds like I should make you my No.1 PR person Shan……..hehe.

looking forward to meeting you face to face.

I hope to be there :)…

I had a major realisation the other night… And only just realised I hadn’t posted it here!

I have been praying so much in the last few days… And have been listening to so much “positive influence” & Christian music… Its a “me” that I don’t even recognise! Anyhoo… Was in the bath praying and it dawned on me…

God is NOT the one with issues about me being gay… He made me exactly the way I am…

I am the one with the issues… Years of being told it is wrong, Negative self conditioning and trying to “shut down” parts of myself… Sounds really basic and stupid but it really was such a big thing for me.

I believe I now need to somehow undo all the damage I have done to myself… Not sure where to start, but I do think I am closer to God than I have ever been before… And that feels so suh-weet!

Hi Shan!!

Good letter.

I know you don’t want a letter written by committee, but could I make two suggestions?

When you are telling your mother about the contact you’ve had with people recently (through Freedom 2b[e] or otherwise, would it be worth indicating that some (?most/?all) these people are coming from a Christian perspective? Whatever the truth is. This might put her mind at ease a little about who has been ‘putting ideas into your head’

Also, there’s a confusing typo. You wanted to say ‘psychologist’ but you wrote ‘phycologist’- that’s someone who studies algae. You are not a unicellular green blob!

Ian

what an excellent letter Shan……I like the way it is constructed….building the positive first and letting your Mum know how much you love and appreciate her. I also like the way you’ve give the power back to her to respond appropriately and that this is what you hope for.

Ian’s suggestion is a good one as well about other Christians………it might be good to add the demonination as well. Particularly if you are say Baptist or Pentecostal……then she will know that change is happening in these places.

A couple of other suggestions…..up to you if you use them or not.

1. It might be good to just let her know that you have not only been talking to other people but that you have also done your own research about the science………and what the Bible really says.

2. Assure her that you are intelligent and level headed and not being deceived……and not living like she may think a lot of gay people live……often called the “gay lifestyle.”

3. you said ‘I’ve tried to kill myself several times”…….does your Mum know about this…….if not I may suggest another way of saying that.

Sorry that is three suggestions…..not a couple…..hehe.

All in all its a fab letter you should be proud of …..and I pray it really touches your Mums heart.